Miscarriage is one of the most painful experiences you can go through as a parent. Both physically and emotionally, miscarriage is taxing. If you have ever suffered a miscarriage, you know how important it is to find support and comfort. Unfortunately, miscarriage isn’t easy to talk about, so the experience can be pretty isolating. But these 11 quotes on miscarriage will help you heal and remind you that you are not alone.
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Quotes on Miscarriage for Healing
When I lost my first baby, I was devastated. I was completely blindsided. I had no reason to believe that I was at risk for a miscarriage, and the pain was acute. Even now, typing the words, “when I lost my first baby” brings a swell of emotion, pain, and guilt. I try to remind myself that I didn’t “lose” my baby, that “loss” doesn’t imply blame. But regardless, the pain persists.
The good news is that now, the pain is a dull ache as compared to what it was afterward, which was an intense, unpredictable firestorm of grief. One of the things that helped me move through that grief was discovering that I was not alone in the experience of miscarriage. People shared their own stories with me. Between that, my family and friends, and research online, I found support and information. And some of that support included quotes on miscarriage.
Quotes on Miscarriage Can Help You Make Your Own Meaning
There is something about a good quote that can really nail an emotional experience and help you along the path toward healing. Making your own meaning around the experience is an important part of the grieving process, and it’s important to remember that although others may try to help, you are the author and the director of that process.
I have chosen these 11 quotes on miscarriage to help you with that very process. I hope these miscarriage quotes bring you peace and understanding, but more importantly, comfort.
Remember, you are definitely not alone.
1. A little baby is no small thing.
No matter how small, pregnancy or infant loss can leave an indelible mark. My baby left a deep imprint on my heart for sure.
“There is no foot too small that it cannot leave an imprint on this world.” – Post from Little Learners
2. Not only do you grieve your baby, you grieve your dreams for them, too.
When I lost my first baby, I realized that all of my hopes and dreams I had for him died, too. That was what made it so hard. But knowing that it was part of the grieving process did help soothe the ache a little.
“I had so many dreams about you and me.” – Post from Lunchbox Babies
3. The pain doesn’t lessen when you carry it alone.
It might feel safer to hide your pain away, keep it all in, bury it down so it feels less real. That might serve you for a time, and you need to do what’s best for you. But consider sharing at some point. Grief works in mysterious ways. It will work itself outward, one way or another. Help it along by sharing your pain with those you trust.
“I couldn’t talk about my struggle with anyone. I bottled up all of my hurt. Other than my husband and my mother, no one knew what I was going through. I hid it and cried on my way to work most mornings and then would touch up my face before walking into the office.” – Post from Hello Warrior
4. Quotes on miscarriage can remind you that you are not alone.
Having a miscarriage initiates you into a club where no one wants to be a member. But nonetheless, the unity and support you will find in this club is fierce and faithful.
“We understand the pain of loss because we have been there.” – Post from Saying Goodbye
5. You are a mama, always.
Whether your child is in your arms, or in your heart, you are a mother. No matter if you’ve had your rainbow baby, or still hope and dream for your rainbow yet to come, you are a mother.
“Whether your child is in your arms, or in your heart, you are a mother.” – Post from The Centered Parent
6. You get to make your own meaning around your loss.
Although well-meaning loved ones may offer words of “support”, their meaning does not have to be your own. You get to tell your story and decide what the experience means to you.
“No one else has the right or ability to determine what your loss means to you…Your pregnancy or baby was part of you, and you have the right to acknowledge (or discover) for yourself what the loss means to you.” – Donna Rothert PhD, author of At a Loss
7. Well-meaning people may try to label your loss. But it isn’t their loss, it’s yours. Grieve in your own way; make your own meaning.
While their hearts may be in the right place, some people don’t have the right words to offer the comfort you need after a miscarriage. If those around you are unable to validate your pain and honor your grief, do your best to find support elsewhere.
Remember that you are the author of your own meaning. It can take time, and honestly, you may never be able to make sense of it. And that is OK, too. Be patient with yourself.
“Your loss is not a test – Your loss is not a lesson – Your loss is not a gift – Your loss is a loss.” – Post from Pink Elephant Support
8. Miscarriage can be a lonely experience, partly because it’s rarely discussed.
I’m not sure why exactly people don’t talk about miscarriage. But it’s likely because it is so painful. Talking about it can be difficult, especially at first. It’s also an incredibly personal experience and one where parents, especially mothers, may feel a serious sense of shame and guilt. But the more you share and open up when you feel ready to do so, the more you contribute to your own healing, and the healing of others.
“If I were to start a file on things nobody tells you about until you’re right in the thick of them, I might begin with miscarriages. A miscarriage is lonely, painful, and demoralizing, almost on a cellular level.” – Michelle Obama – Posted by Melissa T. Maxwell
9. Find a frame that helps you heal.
For me, thinking about the baby I would never hold was excruciating. But when I came across this quote, it completely shifted my mindset. In actuality, I did hold my baby; I held him his entire life.
“I held you every second of your life.” – Stephanie Paige Cole – Posted by The Centered Parent
10. 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage.
I had never heard this stat before I got pregnant. And when I did, it shocked me. But still, I never believed it would happen to me. Plus, I didn’t know anyone who had lost their baby, so how could that statistic be true?
But wow, was I wrong, on all counts. Not only did it happen to me, but I was surprised to discover several women in my life had gone through the same thing.
“1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage.” – Posted by Not So Mommy
11. You will never be the same.
When you suffer a miscarriage, you are affected on a profound level. After the initial shock of pain, you wait for the day where you will feel like your old self again. But for me, that day never came. I am a different person because of my miscarriage experience. Not better or worse, bitter or broken, just different. And maybe stronger, too.
“When you lose a child you are changed on such a deep level that there is no going back to your old self.” – Posted by Megan Hillukka
Miscarriage Grief Support
Thank you for reading this collection of quotes on miscarriage. I hope you found them supportive and validating. In addition to these quotes on miscarriage, if you are looking for ways to manage your miscarriage grief, there are lots of resources and supports available to help you.
Here are just a few resource suggestions and recommendations:
Professional Organizations
There are several organizations whose mission it is to provide resources and spread awareness. Get the support you need from trusted organizations like Share Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support, the Miscarriage Association (UK), or March of Dimes.
Therapy
If you live in Pennsylvania and you are interested in online therapy, feel free to check out my private practice, the Center for Creative Counseling, to learn more about the services I offer.
I offer a free 15 minute consultation to see if I am a good fit for what you are looking for. I specialize in trauma, anxiety, and grief, especially miscarriage grief. Having gone through my own healing journey, I am uniquely equipped to support you with yours.
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Facebook Support Groups
Facebook groups, while not always officially labeled as support groups, can be extremely supportive and beneficial. Check out Miscarriage Support, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support Group, or Tommy’s | Baby Loss Support Group for some seriously amazing and supportive communities.
AND I encourage you to join my support group on Facebook. As an art therapist, certified grief pro, and woman with lived pregnancy loss experience, I look forward to supporting you along your grief journey. Click below to join our safe and supportive community.
Soothing Self-Care
While self-care is always beneficial, it’s especially powerful during periods of grief and loss. There are lots of ways to do this, but consider adding this Healing Hearts Comfort Kit from Earth Mama to your healing ritual. This thoughtful collection of products can help you take special care of your grieving mind, heart, body, and soul.
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