Are you tired of the constant co-parenting conflict? Feeling lost and confused in a sea of blame and judgement? It’s time to find your center, and these 15 inspirational co-parenting quotes and posts can help!
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Why You Need These Co-Parenting Quotes in Your Life
Co-parenting is tough under the best circumstances. Even when you are committed to your co-parent partner, working together to make decisions that impact the health, well-being, and development of your child can be a challenge. Throw in break-up, divorce, remarriage, or blended family stressors, and co-parenting complications grow exponentially!
While there is no one right way to co-parent, there are things you can do to focus on the mission at hand: the safety, health, and happiness of your child.
The following collection of co-parenting quotes offers sound advice, rules to live by, and comforting validation that you are not alone.
These 15 inspiring co-parenting quotes and posts will help you keep your head in the game!
1. A little empathy for your co-parent goes a long way.
Even if you aren’t together, that doesn’t mean you can’t be nice once in a while. You may not always agree with your co-parent’s decisions, but no one knows better than the two of you how tough parenting your children can be. A little validating comfort will help bolster your relationship.
Definitely my style of CO-parenting ????#MomLife #parents #coparenting #quarantinelife pic.twitter.com/kjBhFIO693
— Red_phoenyx (@Red_Phoenyx_) March 27, 2020
2. It’s OK to feel sad about the state of affairs.
When you go through a break-up, you might be tempted to stuff your pain in order to stay strong for your kids. But it’s important to acknowledge those feelings and look them in the eye. Grief is not linear – you cycle through the stages in your own unique way. The sooner you acknowledge your feelings, the sooner you can move through them.
Coparenting makes me sad honestly. I have to accept that I have to share the time I get with my child with the other parent. That I won’t see my kid every morning and every night if I wanted to. I don’t regret splitting up. I’m allowed to be sad with reality.
— Queen Madre ? (@Erimigene) April 5, 2020
3. Vent to the right people.
You have every right you feel the way you do about your co-parent. But if the two of you are no longer a couple, and your gripes about your co-parent have less to do with parenting and more to do with who they are as a person, then you owe it to your child to channel that frustration appropriately. Share that negativity with your kid, and you’ll only confuse them. You won’t convince them the other parent is a jerk, but you will run the risk of making them feel guilty for loving them.
4. Let go of your hate.
Maybe your relationship has changed. Maybe your ex doesn’t love you the way they used to, and it hurts. It can be infuriating – after all that time, attention, and devotion, and it still didn’t last?!
Breakups can leave you feeling miserable and angry. But that doesn’t mean you have to stay in that zone. You can take steps to embrace a new kind of relationship. Move through your grief, practice self-care, establish a new you, and learn how to coexist separately. The sooner you let go of the vitriol that fueled the breakup, the sooner you can move into a supportive partnership that can last a lifetime.
my parents 25th wedding anniversary would have been today so we all celebrated! they are still best friends and have been a great model for coparenting. (they also celebrate their divorce-aversary too) “there is no reason to hold hate for someone you loved”-mom #SGN #Cheers ? pic.twitter.com/BSp0Qvw2VZ
— liz (@its_lizzypoo) April 1, 2020
5. No matter how bad it gets, don’t bash your co-parent in front of the kids.
Do what you need to do to protect yourself and your children. But unless your co-parent is abusive, you should also do what you can to nourish their relationship with your children. One major way to accomplish that is to hold a boundary for your kids – keep negative feelings of a personal nature out of the conversation, and encourage the connection between co-parent and child whenever possible.
It’s not always easy to see eye to eye but most coparents agree that they must help kids adjust together ❤️ #divorce pic.twitter.com/b4gi88BWot
— Coparenting Success (@Children2Matter) February 29, 2016
6. Reassure your kids at every turn.
When your children are away from their other parent, do what you can to remind them how much they are loved by them.
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7. Let your kids form their own opinions of their parents.
You may have a nasty history with your ex, but your children likely have a different view. Allow them the space to form an attachment all their own. Do your best not to cloud things with your own negative experiences. Over time, your child will make their own decisions about how they feel, unburdened by your private baggage.
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8. Kids are fiercely loyal.
Children are built to love their parents unconditionally. Even kids who are mistreated by their parents often remain devoted to them. Remember that your child will love you both no matter what you say or do.
9. Collaborate, don’t compete. You will never win, and your child will lose.
Collaboration does not mean you must always agree. Compromise, pick your battles, and back each other up whenever possible.
10. Allow your child to love you both.
Be kind to your co-parent and your child will benefit.
11. Mind your own.
When you end a relationship, you forfeit the right to know everything about that person. You no longer have a right to know their business, but you do have business between you – the business of raising your child.
CoParenting is NOT hard if you just worry about the child and not the other parent’s business
— G L E N (@Glen_Motete) April 2, 2020
12. Stay on the same page about the big things.
Though it’s not always possible, it helps if you agree on a few fundamentals. Try to incorporate a similar parenting style. Will you raise them with religion or some form of spirituality? Will you encourage toys, clothes, and interests, regardless of gender? Public or private school? Herbivore or carnivore? If you can work together on the big things, the rest is just details.
13. Simple rules to live by.
Easily overlooked, punctuality and politeness are crucial tools in the co-parent arsenal. Whether your lovers, best friends, or former enemies, it’s important to offer genuine thanks for your co-parent’s efforts when you can.
14. You both have a role in decision-making for your child.
Try not to cut your co-parent out of decisions. Even if they don’t seem interested, it’s important to always ask for their two cents so you both have a say in your child’s care.
Always remember to put your child’s best interest first. #bekind #befriendly #befayr #coparenting #divorce #parents #kids #modernfamily #blendedfamily #family #separation #divorcesupport #custody #divorcemediation #singleparent #quote #quotes pic.twitter.com/wAoEFSm12T
— Fayr (@befayr) June 3, 2020
15. Be the bigger person if that’s what it takes.
No matter what your history, you and your co-parent may struggle to keep adult business away from the kids. Keep that conflict between the two of you as much as possible. It’s not easy, but if you want to promote a sense of safety and security, presenting a calm, united front will do wonders for your family.
There you have it! Keep these co-parenting quotes and concepts close to your heart and you will do fine! 🙂
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